my name is dirty picture and i'm at the department of psychology at the stray
national university and i'm currently in the second year of my psychology phd
the method study i found that the closeness of a relationship with the person regulates
the intensity of feelings of herself to the time
but later down the track when people reflect on the events that actually found that
and
the greatest it is spelt from remain seconds of the time and then followed by
close friends later down the track
there's more forgiveness of romantic partners
rather as opposed to friends because it was quite surprising i'd expect to find that
people would retain feelings about a romantic partners to a greater degree
you know environments of evolutionary bossed we lived in bands about thirty or so also
people and it was really important to retain this group membership because to be cost
at the group you would endanger survival and also chance of reproduction
so what we that speculated as other researchers have is that it is the signal
that social acceptance in a relationship is actually been decreased
so
it's a powerful evolutionary signal the same way to physical pain means
that your acceptance in a group is going down
the two studies on mine and we basically ask people to tell us about the
hurtful experiences in one and read about experiences in the other and to find out
that they felt we got them to rights intensity of her feelings on a scale
permitting partners are very special an explicit relationship and presumably every unfriendly has one of
the time so that select investment in that relationship we get a lot about needs
met within romantic relationships the confidence security and intimacy
where is pronounced are a bit more of a
it more scattered relationships they can have many friends at one time even if the
intimate friends
so the that
it's worth your while more to sell but your relationship with the romantic partner then
it is to try and stop at a relationship with a friend that you find
i guess untrustworthy or someone he's per and you
we also looked at the difference between close friends and acquaintances and we found that
are really important relationships close friendships there was we the gap between the degree of
a so part of the time and later down the track then with tobi acquaintances
so people found that acquaintances selected be people like were colleagues or
friends of friends they're sort of people
right click to moderate amount of head but it was no way near the degree
of hurt the close friends could produce
i'm really interested in the that occurs in romantic relationships and the results of this
study showing that the degree of how to time versus hurt following so that agree
forgiveness this would be really fruitful area to follow up on
because such important in intimate relationships and as i said you get a lot of
needs met in them had bands that occur within them are likely to be improbable
cataclysmic they are likely to affect a lot more serious about cellphone about
relationships and how people think about them down the tracks there are really like to
have a look at that in more detail